The Four Horsemen occasionally take their ride through most relationships. When the horsemen are running rampant, couples begin to believe that there is no way they can work out their problems. Couples start to separate themselves emotionally, spiritually, physically, and financially hoping they can resolve their relationship problems somehow outside their marriage. There becomes drastic [...]
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Dr. John Gottman, a psychologist at the University of Washington says there are four attitudes which he has found to predict relationship failure. These are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. When these attitudes are present in a relationship, especially when more than one is present, then there is a very good chance that the relationship [...] Okay, so we all have expectations. Some are realistic and some are not. My wife should be this. My husband should be this. My children should be behaving differently. I should be farther along in my career by now. People who drive slow should stay out of the fast lane. Do any of these sound [...] This first step to handling anything is to acknowledge what is happening. Looking at any crisis from the perspective of “you cannot change or heal what you don’t acknowledge”, will help in the midst of crisis. At times and depending on the crisis, it may be difficult to understand what needs to be changed or [...] A mentor told me this phrase a long time ago and I have referred to it in many situations that I have found myself in throughout my life. This phrase is “Talent and Charisma will get you to the top, Character will keep you there.” In the midst of the Tiger scandal this phrase has been [...] DE-STRESSING THE HOLIDAYS Last night I presented on the topic of how to de-stress the holidays. In my research for the topic I found that the Top Stressors During the Holidays from multiple sources were: Relationships Relationships can be stressful and create turmoil in ones life. Also, facing the holidays without a loved one can be tough [...] It fills me up when I see a person connect with a time when they shut off their emotions. Whether it is parental disappointment or life circumstances that influences the shut down, those events begin to lose their power with the awareness that takes place. Everyone of us deserves to have experiences like this…and each [...] So I have heard the song “Slow Fade” by Casting Crowns many times and everytime that I hear it I see a little more of what takes place around me everyday. I have seen too many marriages come to a place where all of a sudden, or so it seems, the marriage ended up in [...] I was reminded this past week, while I was leading a Focus Seminar in Boise, Idaho, the amazing strength and power in a community that stays connected with each other. I believe that people everywhere are looking for a connection with others and desire a community of support. The thing that gets in the way of [...] What a great FAN night last night! Many of you have asked for a link to the video and wanting a copy of the PowerPoint used. You can find the video at http://www.personalgrowthcourses.net/video/best_dad. You can find the PowerPoint here: http://www.bryanvignery.com/pdfs/Change-and-the-Power-of-Choice.xps If you would like ot continue your growth process, feel free to contact Bryan today at (913) [...] |
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