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Happiness vs. Joy

Bryan Vignery — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 13:55:29 +0000

Happiness is temporary, but joy is eternal. Happiness depends upon outward experiences, but joy comes from within. This quote from Adrian Rogers hit me over the weekend and I have been processing as I start this week. No one can take our joy from us…we can only give it away. There are many things that [...]

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Rear View Mirror

Bryan Vignery — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 21:00:58 +0000

The rear view mirror of our life holds many things. Looking into the rear view mirror of life can be motivating and awakening if there have been intentional steps taken on our journey! As I approach a milestone birthday in life I believe now is as good as any time to look into the rear [...]

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What is Bothering You?

Bryan Vignery — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 03:40:10 +0000

Those things that bother you about someone else could be just your answer to happiness! What?? Yes, you heard me correctly. Have you ever though about why we find some people annoying? Consider this…things that we find annoying in others may just be a reflection of what we do not like about ourselves! For example, [...]

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Manipulation and Desperation

Bryan Vignery — Mon, 24 May 2010 02:35:55 +0000

I was reading Seth Godin’s post titled “Who is easily manipulated?” from his blog the other day and it struck me in a powerful way. The post discusses manipulation in a way that I believe everyone can learn something about themselves whether they feel manipulated or not. Seth states “I define manipulation as working to [...]

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Modeling Marriage and Parenting

Bryan Vignery — Mon, 17 May 2010 06:11:17 +0000

We learn how to be a mom or a dad by the way we were parented. We learn how to treat our sons and daughters by the way we were treated by our parents. We learn how to be husbands and wives by the way our dads treated our moms and how our moms treated [...]

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INTENTION – “a determination to act in a certain way”

Bryan Vignery — Sat, 24 Apr 2010 20:06:07 +0000

Over the past four years the word intention has been a buzz word for me. I decided to look up the word intention today on Websters I was struck by one of the definitions: “A determination to act in a certain way”. After reading that I was lead to see what Websters said about determination! [...]

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Plugged In!

Bryan Vignery — Sun, 18 Apr 2010 20:29:24 +0000

So I’m sitting in church this morning and the pastor was giving an analogy that made me think of a perspective how we are to be connected to God. I believe we are to live lives that are overflowing.In order for us to overflow with love we have to be plugged in to the love’s [...]

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Starting off on the Right Foot

Bryan Vignery — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 18:24:58 +0000

With the odds stacked against our marriage, we knew we wanted to do everything we could to start things off on the right foot.

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The Four Horsemen Continued

Bryan Vignery — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 17:32:18 +0000

The Four Horsemen occasionally take their ride through most relationships. When the horsemen are running rampant, couples begin to believe that there is no way they can work out their problems. Couples start to separate themselves emotionally, spiritually, physically, and financially hoping they can resolve their relationship problems somehow outside their marriage. There becomes drastic [...]

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The Four Horsemen

Bryan Vignery — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 16:59:03 +0000

Dr. John Gottman, a psychologist at the University of Washington says there are four attitudes which he has found to predict relationship failure. These are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. When these attitudes are present in a relationship, especially when more than one is present, then there is a very good chance that the relationship [...]

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