The Four Horsemen occasionally take their ride through most relationships. When the horsemen are running rampant, couples begin to believe that there is no way they can work out their problems. Couples start to separate themselves emotionally, spiritually, physically, and financially hoping they can resolve their relationship problems somehow outside their marriage. There becomes drastic [...]
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Dr. John Gottman, a psychologist at the University of Washington says there are four attitudes which he has found to predict relationship failure. These are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. When these attitudes are present in a relationship, especially when more than one is present, then there is a very good chance that the relationship [...] Okay, so we all have expectations. Some are realistic and some are not. My wife should be this. My husband should be this. My children should be behaving differently. I should be farther along in my career by now. People who drive slow should stay out of the fast lane. Do any of these sound [...] A mentor told me this phrase a long time ago and I have referred to it in many situations that I have found myself in throughout my life. This phrase is “Talent and Charisma will get you to the top, Character will keep you there.” In the midst of the Tiger scandal this phrase has been [...] I was in Ontario, Oregon this morning listening to my friend Randy Howard give part of a sermon on adultery. An interesting part of the sermon that caught my attention was the comparison between the Swine Flu (H1N1) epidemic and divorce. With divorce rates, as staggering as they are, do not make the 10 o’clock [...] So I have heard the song “Slow Fade” by Casting Crowns many times and everytime that I hear it I see a little more of what takes place around me everyday. I have seen too many marriages come to a place where all of a sudden, or so it seems, the marriage ended up in [...] Stepping out of the victim role and stepping into personal power is a choice that each of us has the opportunity to make when change takes place in our lives. When we learn how to set boundaries that empower personal power we start to create relationship that thrive. I will suggest that most of us grow [...] I have been wrestling with the concept of desire for the months and in that time I have begun reading the book “The Journey of Desire: Searching for the Life We’ve Only Dreamed of” by John Eldredge. Although I’m only partly into the book, he has been confirming many of the thoughts that I have [...] In today’s marriages the basis of commitment has dissolved to the point of seeing divorce rates soar through the roof. A marital model that focuses on the committment to healthy choices by both individual’s in a marriage will create an environment of intimacy. It is proven that “as partners let go of their efforts to [...] |
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