Bryan Vignery, LPC » communication

Creative Communication (Part 2)

Bryan Vignery — Fri, 06 Aug 2010 10:00:58 +0000

Empowerment Language is used to self-empower rather than self-sabotage. Making statements based on TRUTH (self-empowerment) rather than LIES (self-sabotage) opens the creative process. When we use Empowerment Language it creates a solution model rather than a permission model. Permission Model * Muted tone of voice and distant * Closed and ashamed body language * Soft [...]

by Bryan Vignery Leave A Commenthttp://twitter.com/bvigfocus

Creative Communication – (Part 1)

Bryan Vignery — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 03:44:17 +0000

Last night a gave a presentation to a group of Focus Seminar graduates entitled “Creative Communication”. It seems that every time I talk about communication I have some more insight of how to grow through effective communication so I wanted to share some of it with whomever takes the time to read this blog. Based [...]

by Bryan Vignery Leave A Commenthttp://twitter.com/bvigfocus

What is Bothering You?

Bryan Vignery — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 03:40:10 +0000

Those things that bother you about someone else could be just your answer to happiness! What?? Yes, you heard me correctly. Have you ever though about why we find some people annoying? Consider this…things that we find annoying in others may just be a reflection of what we do not like about ourselves! For example, [...]

by Bryan Vignery Leave A Commenthttp://twitter.com/bvigfocus

Starting off on the Right Foot

Bryan Vignery — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 18:24:58 +0000

With the odds stacked against our marriage, we knew we wanted to do everything we could to start things off on the right foot.

by Bryan Vignery Leave A Commenthttp://twitter.com/bvigfocus

The Four Horsemen Continued

Bryan Vignery — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 17:32:18 +0000

The Four Horsemen occasionally take their ride through most relationships. When the horsemen are running rampant, couples begin to believe that there is no way they can work out their problems. Couples start to separate themselves emotionally, spiritually, physically, and financially hoping they can resolve their relationship problems somehow outside their marriage. There becomes drastic [...]

by Bryan Vignery Leave A Commenthttp://twitter.com/bvigfocus

The Four Horsemen

Bryan Vignery — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 16:59:03 +0000

Dr. John Gottman, a psychologist at the University of Washington says there are four attitudes which he has found to predict relationship failure. These are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. When these attitudes are present in a relationship, especially when more than one is present, then there is a very good chance that the relationship [...]

by Bryan Vignery Leave A Commenthttp://twitter.com/bvigfocus