Posts Tagged ‘parenting’

There is an invisible line in our lives that determines which side of morality we fall on. When it comes to morality, there is a right and there is a wrong. There is a moral law we have distorted in order to make it more comfortable for our everyday lives. It’s my belief that this tolerance creates confusion to all. Young children cannot understand the moral tolerance that some of us lead with. Young children will follow what the adults around them display, not necessarily what they say…and there in lies the tolerance. What would it be like if our actions matched up with the moral convictions that were rooted in truth? When we have rules without clear understanding it creates rebellion in a young persons life. When we follow up our rules with relational understanding, our children connect with truth.

When my daughter gets in her strong-willed stance and decides that no one is going to tell her what to do, I have a decision to make…lay down the law and the rules and leave it at that…or get down on her level and build a relationship with her that communicates loving discipline. I don’t know about you but I didn’t have a lot of clear understanding of why things are happening when I was a young child. I was to do what was right, even though I didn’t necessarily understand it.

I believe that when we close the gap on the tolerance, we start seeing fruit in our lives that creates clarity and direction. We start surrounding ourselves with people that are accountable for their actions. Our mission in life starts to be unveiled when we get clear on what we will tolerate morally. What will you tolerate around you? Will you stand for truth or will you let your morals slide?

We learn how to be a mom or a dad by the way we were parented. We learn how to treat our sons and daughters by the way we were treated by our parents. We learn how to be husbands and wives by the way our dads treated our moms and how our moms treated our dads.

Our children are learning in the same fashion that we did!

Some of had great modeling growing up and some of us had less than desirable modeling growing up. What are you going to do about the way you learned about marriage and parenting today?

Investing in oursleves by looking at where we came from can be just the ticket we have been looking for. Since we cannot change or heal what we don’t first acknowledge, it is imparative that we examine our lives if we anticipate to correct our “out of line” ways of doing things. It’s not about blaming our parents in any way; it’s about assuming accountability for what we are doing present day.
What are you going to change today?