Do You Want an Intentional Marriage?
You deserve to be intentional in many areas of your life. One of the areas that I will challenge you in is your marriage. Whether you are married or engaged, your relationship needs time and attention in order to make it successful. Don’t miss this opportunity to examine the effectiveness of your marriage and be more connected and intimate with your spouse.
NAVIGATING MARRIAGE
INTENTIONAL CHOICES MARRIAGE WORKSHOP (download brochure)
Led by Marriage Coaches:
Bryan and Stephanie Vignery
Gary and Christy Kuzmich
Our mission is to assist couples to plot a course through intentional choices that result in action that empowers growth. Today’s marriages need intention more than ever before. With the divorce rate at approximately 50% percent for first marriages, 67% for second and 74% for third marriages, couples need to spend time looking at what is important in keeping marriage fresh and alive! We are committed to helping couples reach a new level of effectiveness in their marriage.
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CREATING AND SHARING A MAGNETIC MARRIAGE
Remember why you were attracted to your spouse? Was it magnetic? Today others are looking for radiant marriages that they can model. So what is the attraction power in a marriage? It is knowing who you are as an individual and being committed to a marriage vision and mission that creates radiance! Intentional marriages lead to a deeper level of intimacy and fulfillment that transcends and attracts.
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LOCATION
11100 Ash Street, Suite 100
Leawood, KS 66211
DATE
Friday March 25th 7pm – 10:30pm
Saturday March 26th 8:30am – 2:30pm
Friday March 26th 7pm – 10:30pm
Saturday March 27th 8:30am – 2:30pm
PRICE and AVAILABILITY
Conference Price $395 per couple.
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Intentional New Year
As you embrace 2011 you deserve to be intentional in many areas of your life. One of the areas that I will challenge you in is your marriage. Whether you are married or engaged, your relationship needs time and attention in order to make it successful. Don’t miss this opportunity to examine the effectiveness of your marriage and start 2011 more connected and intimate with your spouse.
NAVIGATING MARRIAGE
INTENTIONAL CHOICES MARRIAGE CONFERENCE (download brochure)
Led by Marriage Coaches:
Bryan and Stephanie Vignery
Gary and Christy Kuzmich
Our mission is to assist couples to plot a course through intentional choices that result in action that empowers growth. Today’s marriages need intention more than ever before. With the divorce rate at approximately 50% percent for first marriages, 67% for second and 74% for third marriages, couples need to spend time looking at what is important in keeping marriage fresh and alive! We are committed to helping couples reach a new level of effectiveness in their marriage.
REGISTER NOW
CREATING AND SHARING A MAGNETIC MARRIAGE
Remember why you were attracted to your spouse? Was it magnetic? Today others are looking for radiant marriages that they can model. So what is the attraction power in a marriage? It is knowing who you are as an individual and being committed to a marriage vision and mission that creates radiance! Intentional marriages lead to a deeper level of intimacy and fulfillment that transcends and attracts.
REGISTER NOW
LOCATION
11100 Ash Street, Suite 100
Leawood, KS 66211
DATE
Friday November 19th 7pm – 10:30pm
Saturday November 20th 8:30am – 2:30pm
PRICE and AVAILABILITY
Conference Price $395 per couple.
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Leaving a Legacy
I witnessed a first hand testimony of a young man in his early twenties that was caught in the middle of anger and frustration due to the possible separation of his parents. His parents reached the point of what they thought was no return three years ago in their marriage and the son, at that point, decided he didn’t like his parents too much nor did he respect them for disrupting his security of having parents that were together.
The reason that I tell this story is not to highlight what divorce or separation can do to kids, but to highlight intentional living by parents. You see, the mother in this situation decided to get some help and direction. Due to her taking action and being intentional, the father and their son ended up attending Focus Seminars. I witnessed them come from a level of disconnection to embracing each other with open communication and honesty that broke down the walls of anger and frustration in a matter of five days. It was heart warming see them then take that openness and honesty and connect it as a family with mom.
Five days of intentional motivation was all they needed to change the legacy of their family. It didn’t only change the family but the generations to come. Because parents decided to not let life beat them down any longer, they will cherish the fruits of not only a connected marriage but kids and grand-kids that will forever be changed.
This may or may not be your story. Regardless, I challenge you to put yourself in the middle of the situation that needs intentionality in your life right now. What is the first step that could be taken for you? Is someone important to you waiting for you to take the first step? Surround yourself with people that want you to succeed and lean on them through your burden. You have what it takes to push to the next level of effectiveness. Make it happen!
Creative Communication (Part 2)
Empowerment Language is used to self-empower rather than self-sabotage. Making statements based on TRUTH (self-empowerment) rather than LIES (self-sabotage) opens the creative process. When we use Empowerment Language it creates a solution model rather than a permission model.
Permission Model
* Muted tone of voice and distant
* Closed and ashamed body language
* Soft and sporadic eye contact
* Doubtful and weak attitude
When a person is working from the Permission Model, they are working from the victim role. They are looking through the typical glasses or lenses that haven’t been challenged. The Permission Model creates a set of behaviors that are not working for the individual. It is like running into walls time after time, all day long.
In the Victim Role, a person has Blind Spots that are getting in their way, they have a tendency to Blame Others, they get stuck in the “I Can’t” Excuses, and they sit for a period of time in the Wait and Hope mode of life. The “Whoa is me!” attitude.
When you are working from the Permission Model, what do YOU create in your life?
Solution Model
* Strong and direct tone of voice that is convincing to self and others
* Body language that is tall and proud and communicates confidence
* Firm and continuous eye contact that ensures security
* Confirming and believable attitude
Working from the Solution Model, you are creating a new set of behaviors and communication that are working for you. Let’s call it the Behavioral Method. The Behavioral Method is a specific structure of external and internal experiences, which consistently produces a specific behavioral result. It is when your thoughts, communication, and your behaviors are congruent. This would be working from the Accountability Role.
In the Accountability Roles, there is an Acknowledgment of Reality, the person will Own It the situation and their own part in it, they will Find Solutions to the situation and they they will GIG IT (Get It Going).
When you are working from the Solution Model, what do YOU create in you life?